Sunday, October 23, 2011
When Someone Dies
It is hard to blog when someone dies.
Posts about basement lights, apple snacks and Halloween costumes will have to wait.
For some it is a top news story, but not for Eldest.
Eldest said goodbye to two friends on Saturday.
Four teenage boys from her high school were killed in a tragic car accident.
The fiftth is in a city hospital five hours away in critical but stable condition.
I hadn't met any of the boys, but I do know snippets of how the two from her class
were a part of my daughter's life.
They were smart boys.
They were good boys.
They were football players.
One in particular made Eldest smile every single day.
He told her she was so stylish, every time he saw her.
And then when that got old, he told her she already knew
what he was going to say, so he wouldn't say it,
but he knew, she knew, what he was thinking.
She will miss him.
My heart goes out to all of the families.
I wish I could ease their pain.
But all I can do is hug my children a little tighter today.
What do I want to tell my daughter?
~Please always wear your seatbelt, the only boy to survive was wearing his.
~Please stay away from parties where there isn't any adult supervision.
~Please don't drink, instead learn to have fun sober.
Why? Studies have shown the same people
who swear they would never drink and drive,
will get behind the wheel after having several drinks; their judgement over the matter completely impaired... (please do not assume the boys involved were drinking and driving, rather they were hit by someone who is under suspicion of doing so.)
~ Please find it in your heart to forgive.
~Please don't be on the road after midnight; nothing good ever happens after midnight.
~Please, if you feel uneasy about a situation always, always go with your gut and don't ever override it.
~Please don't be in a rush to grow up.
~And please always let me give you a hug and a kiss before you leave the house.