Friday, January 29, 2010

Parenting Through Facebook Posts 101

My 14 year old daughter was home sick from school yesterday with a cough, and we all know that coughs are no longer a publicly shared condition. Soo...

I asked if she could help me with my blog format.
Within an hour of zooming from Photobucket to flickr over to Tinypic and back to Picnic, she came up with this great new header.  She then fiddle diddled with HTML and  and voila . . . 3 perfectly aligned columns!  I absolutely love it and couldn't have done it on my own, at least not in this calendar year.

Which brings me to my 
Topic for today:

My reason for writing this blog, in part was to try and keep up with the ever changing world of communication my girl's live in.  I decided I would not be left coughing in the dust of my children's techno expertise.

Who was I kidding?

I still have a hard time answering my cell phone.  (it's new, by the way)

This journey into the unknown began two years ago with Facebook, which my daughter was mentioning casually in conversation.  "All her friends had one."   I was skeptical.  How did it work?  Was it safe?

I had a choice:  Join facebook myself and jump in with my water wings and learn about the good the bad and the ugly.  Or I could sit on the dock forbid her to participate and watch with the sun in my eyes,  completely unaware of anything going on beneath the waves.

I decided her use of facebook would likely be inevitable. So what better way to be a "present" parent than to jump in and help her maneuver through the tricky rapids of a white water twitter rafting world?

So, here I am trying my best to decipher their world.  Twitter?  What is that? What do I need it for? Do I need birdseed? Who would follow me?  

No one obviously, that's not the point.

The point is, my daughter will twitter, and I can follow her (honestly, I don't think her generation has  thought this one through very well),  and her younger sisters are not far behind.

I remember thinking that the generation gap would not be nearly as vast, as was the case with my parents and their parents before them.
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Surely my children will not look back at my life and wonder how I survived?  Yet the gap is undeniably there and widening.  They have never touched a typewriter, nor listened to an 8 track, and between you and me, I think they might be calling me Nana behind my back.

While my teen shuns speaking on the phone, she happily corresponds via email, msn, facebook, and texting (Please note:  she does not have her own cell phone, yet somehow intrinsically knows how to text at warp speed, I've clocked her.)

I am going to have to sprint to keep up.  The slow blog jog I am currently taking will not do the trick.

I want to live in their world, not complain about it.  Or even worse,  get up on my soapbox and question it's validity?

Instead I will look it straight in the face and say, "Oh go for a tumblr why don't you", or "you don't make me twitter one little bit", or "I've heard that facebook isn't even a bestseller."

Oh yeah, I'll show them!  As they scroll through my "words of wisdom" on their facebook homepage I will not be far from their thoughts.  As I Tweet sweetly about my day, they won't be able to shake me.
And my parenting plan would be foolproof. . . if only I could figure out how to text without always turning this crazy thing off.  

Oh, I am sooo being left in the dust.

Now, if you'll excuse me, I need to go wash the grit out of my teeth.

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  1. Love the header! Teenagers are the best :)

  2. Love this post! I still can't send a text from my cell phone!- I just let one of my children do it for me! :)

  3. The trouble is that websites are like parties: once the parents turn up, they're not cool anymore.

  4. Great post--I have not seen too many parents write about their Facebook, communication concerns with new teens. I have 3 sons, the oldest is 13 and in 8th grade. All his friends have Facebook and cell phones. Not him. We only have one desktop computer at home. It is busy enough with us and the two oldest boys needing it sometimes for homework. I don't see how my kids would have the time with all their schoolwork. I only hear about how kids are hearing about getting left out of parties, etc. and how they have the guts to talk to the opposite sex on Facebook but not in person. Also our kids have no email addresses. They can talk on the one phone we have as a landline as they wish. We do have one extra cell phone that we give to one of them when we drop them off at a skatepark.
    Anyway, I am lame and old fashioned and text-less but I am sticking to it.

  5. haha! I love the header and the layout of your blog is so clean and nice. I'm still trying to work on the three column thing myself and haven't gotten it just right yet. Sounds like you're doing a pretty good job of keeping up with technology so far! Just imagine what kind of technology will be around for your future grandkids!!! Yikes, huh?

  6. Love this post, how true it is!


    P.S. It takes me about a half hour to text one sentence, ugh....

  7. Ah, technology. Ask my 15-year-old son how his mom does with the computer. But I'm learning and it's much easier to compose on a computer than on a manual typewriter. I'm not sure how I'll do, though, when my in-house tech pro starts college.

    As for cell phones, we live without them. For now.

    This was a great post. Love the humor, and the realism.


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